you know what?
im most afraid of anything turning stale. especially in relationship terms. im afraid of it losing that spark that keep things alive. very much admire those old folks who are able to keep it going after all those years..
researchers always say that in a successful relationship, things that partners do for each other often continue even if it's been years. as in romance should continue into marriage. like, dont think that just cause you're married then you dont have to please your partner cause he/she is in love with you [if not you guys wouldnt be married in the first place]. so usually they would recommend bringing the romance on forward even if you're married. i think that it goes the same to a couple too. as in when a guy is wooing a girl, he would usually do stuff for her?? yeah. then if the girl is moved by his actions and stuff and accepts to be his girlfriend, he shouldnt stop doing that, if not the girl would wonder if she had made the wrong choice in saying yes and if he is getting bored. so you see, it's important to make your partner happy when in a relationship. afterall, a happy partner would give less problems and this would result in a happier relationship. =]
anyway.
i think that most guys would flatter the girl with lots of stuff when wooing but these presents would gradually become less and less when they got accepted? lols. maybe that's not true. but then and again, im talking about guys who are not financially independent and their source of money comes from their own savings.. think that they would have to strategise. dont be so intent on blowing the girl away with big forever friends teddy bears and stuff beforehand. remember that the money would have to last on till you guys go steady. and when you guys go steady there's still the one month and stuff.. so there's a need to plan and not spend too much money at the beginning. sounds abit crude to describe a relationship like that, but think of it as an investment.. you're still not sure about the outcome. so.. gradually sink in the money. dont sink it all at one go.. [some people might say heck, but hell, that's your decision!]
anyway it's the thought that counts when it comes to giving gifts ;D hahas. as in, a handmade gift from the guy [especially if it's handicraft -dont do hearts, kinda common?- eg. papercranes or what. cause girls seem to have the impression that guys are inept at handcraft. lols.] so. impress her that way. besides, it's cheaper [i believe] to get some paper and a nice glass bottle. heheh..
=D
that's just what i think lah..
if not enough just throw in a pack of 3 ferraro roche.. 3 for the 3 words [ilu].
alternately a flower would do [special one in your heart]
heheh.
afterall it's the thought that counts.
;]
lols.
hope that this would be useful.
but hell, who would read this since nobody knows about this blog's existence in the first place?? bah.. haha. have a morbid fear that i wont be able to type so freely if i know that someone is reading it. cause some of the posts are very personal.. not what i would say to a friend or foe face to face.. =oh wells.
dinner.
=]
